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People.com gives us more from Jen’s InStyle cover story!
A lot can change after nine years of marriage. Even for A-listers.
“You can’t expect to be courted all the time, and I don’t want to court him right now – I don’t have the energy!” Jennifer Garner says of husband Ben Affleck in InStyle magazine’s October cover story.
“But we’re definitely in a very mindful place where we’re making an effort to be together, do things at the same time, and be loving.”
Add three children into the mix, of course, and that further changes the dynamic.
“When we had our first [child] we had only been together a year. We were babies. It happened so fast, I hardly remember what we were like before the kids got here,” says Garner, 42, of Violet, 8½, Seraphina, 5, and Samuel, 2. “Now we’re just starting to go away for a night here and there.”
She and Affleck, 42, who has been hard at work portraying a brooding, brawny Batman, may be in sync when it comes to making time for overnight dates, but they’ve got decidedly different roles when it comes to parenting.
“I know who wants what lunch, and I’ve done all the school paperwork and filled out the emergency cards. Ben doesn’t know that stuff exists,” says Garner.
“He is in charge of laughter. No matter how much I tickle them or toss them or chase them around, it’s not the same. If I’m the slow, steady drumbeat, he’s the jazz.”
The October issue of InStyle hits newsstands Friday.
Jennifer talks to Hello! Magazine about balancing work and home and about being the CEO of her household!
Jennifer Garner takes the daily chores that motherhood brings in her stride and thinks there are a lot harder things to do than make a family and career work.
The A-list actress and her husband Ben Affleck raise three children together; daughters Violet, eight, and Seraphina, five, and two-year-old son Samuel.
On top of this, the proud parents are two of the hottest names in Hollywood. While Jennifer relishes her role as a mom, she’ll never quit acting.
“I always think I’m the chief executive officer of our household. There’s nothing like brain surgery about it – it’s all logistics and schedules and remembering to pack lunches and who has a karate lesson after school and thinking about what food we already have in the refrigerator and what I need to buy more of to cook dinner,” Jennifer laughed to the British edition of Hello! magazine.
“It’s the boring nonsense of an average family life but somebody has to do it. I was writing cheques this morning to various people who have done things around the house and I started to laugh because I suddenly thought: ‘You know, I bet Ben doesn’t even know this person’s last name, let alone how much we pay them.’ But that’s how we divide our jobs.”
Jennifer and Ben wed in June 2005 and are often thought of as one of the strongest unions in the industry.
Despite their solid relationship, 42-year-old Jennifer says sometimes they can be affected by the pressures of making a marriage work as celebrities.
“It’s something we pay attention to, yes, but that’s as much because we’ve been together for ten years as it is about Hollywood. We want to be a healthy couple and to make time for us as well as for the children and we find a way to do that,” she smiled.
“Just this week we picked the kids up from school together, took them home then went up the coast to Santa Barbara for the night. We had dinner, woke up in the morning, had breakfast, walked around and were home in time to put the baby down for his afternoon nap.”
In a new interview for Playboy discusses the Batman backlash, working with Jennifer, making some bad film choices and more. Here are some clips regarding Jennifer … I appreciate his candidness about discussing the paparazzi.
PLAYBOY: You’re a decade removed from Gigli, when focus on your romantic relationship with Jennifer Lopez hurt your career. Back then, who helped you figure out how to climb out of the hole?
AFFLECK: That hole was a series of movies that didn’t work and one in particular that was widely mocked because it had a funny name and overlapped with the tabloid situation. It became a perfect storm. Then Paycheck was mediocre, Surviving Christmas was bad, and I sunk into a morass. I thought, Okay, I want to get out of this. My wife was definitely around then. Getting to know her, falling in love with her and being connected with her gave me a foundation to reach out and say, Okay, I’m going to do Hollywoodland; I’m going to direct Gone Baby Gone. Those were the steps forward I needed to put positive stuff on the board. She is by leaps and bounds the most important person to me in that respect. Over the past 10 years she has allowed me to have a stable home life while accomplishing my professional goals.
PLAYBOY: She bolstered your confidence?
AFFLECK: I was frustrated. A lot of smart people out there made choices they thought would work on some of these movies. Some of it is luck. Everybody has movies that don’t work; I just had a run of them. But I also looked at it and said, “I didn’t work hard enough. I wasn’t diligent enough. I wasn’t dedicated enough.” I made that realization. But once I’d made it, the most critical thing was that she said, “If you’re going to work 24 hours a day, that’s cool. I’m going to be here.” That allowed me to think, Okay, that’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to kill myself over this next period of time.
PLAYBOY: Your relationship with Jennifer Garner came after a very public engagement to Jennifer Lopez. Both your relationships were tabloid fodder.
AFFLECK: The crucible by flashbulb. It was magazines then, and those days are more or less gone. Now it’s online, but it’s the same thing. At the nadir of that I felt I was being treated worse than Scott Peterson, who at least got the benefit of the word alleged when they talked about him.
PLAYBOY: He’s the guy who——
AFFLECK: Murdered his wife and tossed her over the side of a boat. The point is I felt like I was at the bottom. I became the guy people could kick around, even if they hadn’t seen the movie, because they saw other people taking shots. I thought it was unfair. But some of those people later wrote nice things about my work. I’ve learned not to take it personally.
PLAYBOY: But often it is personal.
AFFLECK: Once I saw my way out of it, I said, You know what? I don’t even care anymore. I’m going to focus on my job. I don’t give a shit. Take my picture. Write what you want to write. At the end of the day, what you write in a gossip column doesn’t matter. What matters is how the movie works. I found out it doesn’t kill you. But once I thought I had that figured out, I started having kids. And that is when I drew the line.
PLAYBOY: What is the line?
AFFLECK: You can say what you want about me. You can yell at me with a video camera and be TMZ. You can follow me around and take pictures all you want. I don’t care. There are a couple of guys outside right now. Terrific. That’s part of the deal. But it’s wrong and disgusting to follow children around and take their picture and sell it for money. It makes the kids less safe. They used to take pictures of our children coming out of preschool, and so this stalker who had threatened to kill me, my wife and our kids showed up at the school and got arrested. I mean, there are real practical dangers to this.
PLAYBOY: How close did he get?
AFFLECK: He was in the pack of paparazzi. They didn’t know he was a guy who was threatening to murder our family. That makes me angry. It’s a safety thing, and there’s also a sanity thing. My kids aren’t celebrities. They never made that bargain. We were offered a lot of money to sell pictures of our kids when they were born. You’ll notice there aren’t any. I make no judgment about people who decide differently; a lot of them give the money to charity. For me it was a matter of principle. I didn’t want someone to be able to come back and say I was complicit, that it wasn’t a question of principle as much as price.
PLAYBOY: You didn’t want to be a hypocrite.
AFFLECK: As their father it’s my job to protect them from that stuff. I try my very best, and sometimes I’m successful. The tragic thing is, people who see those pictures naturally think it’s sweet. They don’t see the gigantic former gang member with a huge lens standing over a four-year-old and screaming to get the kid’s attention. The kids are always looking down because they’re freaked out and scared of these people. And so they yell. Which is fine if you’re Lindsay Lohan coming out of a club, or me or any adult. With kids it’s tasteless at best. A lot of these photographs are being bought by legitimate magazines. In the U.K. they have a good system: If you take a kid’s picture, you have to blur out the face. It protects the privacy of children, any child. I wish we would do that here, though I don’t expect it. When my wife met with California lawmakers to get legislation passed to establish a certain distance between paparazzi and children and also to prevent the stalking behavior on the part of the paparazzi, she was opposed by the association of magazine and newspaper folks. They said it would have a chilling effect on the way the news was covered. You couldn’t chill the internet coverage of celebrities if you tried.
PLAYBOY: But do you understand why the press would worry about infringements on the First Amendment?
AFFLECK: I think the First Amendment and the public’s right to know are adequately served by photographers who are at least 100 feet away. They all have 300-millimeter lenses. I’m a photographer myself, and I can tell you with complete confidence that you can get a fine picture. I understand we won’t be able to prevent them from taking photos of children or get them to blur the faces, even though I think that would be preferable. But at the very least there should be a bubble of safety. We do that at football games: You can’t just come on the field. We do that with politicians: You can’t photograph the president from any distance you want.
PLAYBOY: You took a lot of heat for making movies with Jennifer Lopez when you were a couple. Is that why you and your wife don’t work together?
AFFLECK: Yes. Well, my wife and I made Pearl Harbor and Daredevil. With our track record, I don’t know if anyone’s looking for a three-quel.
PLAYBOY: You’re not Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn?
AFFLECK: Exactly. I think it doesn’t work. It’s already hard to get people to suspend disbelief, and then you have married couples in the same movie. People know about the marriage, and they’re not willing to acknowledge the couple as anything else. And marriage is boring to people. They say, “I’m married 20 years. I love my wife, but I have that at home.” People want to see the kindling of new romance in movies. It’s exciting, but not when it’s a couple they know has been together for 10 years.
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People.com shared another story on Jen from the Neutrogena Sun Summit. This time Jennifer talks about how she gets her kids to stay safe and wear sunscreen.
Making sure to daily apply sunscreen on your children isn’t easy for any mom — but it sure is important, says mother-of-three Jennifer Garner, who has been working with Neutrogena’s Choose Skin Health initiative for six years.
“Of course it’s a struggle!” the actress, 40, tells PEOPLE Wednesday at the Neutrogena Sun Summit. “The kids do not like getting sunscreen put on, especially at at a certain age, at least not mine. If you have kids out there who like sunscreen, hallelujah!”
Garner, who admits she luckily missed out on the “major baking-in-the-sun years” by mostly staying inside when she was younger, wants to ensure that her children with husband Ben Affleck — Violet, 7, Seraphina, 4, and Samuel, 1 — also avoid future skin damage by educating them about the dangers.
“We talk about skin health, and they know why they have to wear sunscreen,” she says. “If someone forgets, they’ll say ‘Hey, did you forget to put sunscreen on me?’”
She also praises Neutrogena’s kid-friendly SPF application options for making things a little easier at home: “I give them a stick that they can rub on their faces. Or they can do a spray if they want it fast. I’ve used everything.”
And Garner admits she’s not above rewarding her kids for remembering their sunscreen.
“I know it’s horrible — and I’m admitting to bribery — but I’ve given them an M&M [for putting] sunscreen on before,” Garner reveals. “I’ve [also] done a sticker chart. I’ll do whatever it takes — it has to be a non-negotiable part of life.”
Ben’s film Argo won Best Picture at the Academy Awards and during his speech he mentioned Jennifer. Here is the clip:
US Weekly shared this story where Ben talks about how meeting Jennifer is his greatest accomplishment.
Ben Affleck’s greatest achievement in life has nothing to do with nabbing the award for Best Picture at the Oscars on Sunday, Feb. 24. According to the 40-year-old director, star and producer of Argo, his proudest accomplishment is finding a soulmate in Jennifer Garner.
After thanking the Odd Life of Timothy Green actress during the ABC broadcast, the two-time Oscar winner — he was first honored for co-writing the screenplay for Good Will Hunting 15 years ago — spoke to Access Hollywood about how much Garner, 40, means to him.
“All marriages, all relationships to a certain extent, require your work. They require work and investment,” Affleck said, riffing off his heartfelt, off-the-cuff acceptance speech. “We work on it together, we try our best. Nobody’s perfect. I would be lying to you if I said that either she or I were. She’s more perfect than I am, I can tell you that.”
The filmmaker continued, “We do our best. She’s committed. She’s as committed as I am. We work together, and we have three great kids.” (Married since June 2005, the A-list actors are parents to Violet, 7, Seraphina, 4, and Sam, 12 months.)
Hours before Affleck took home the night’s top honor (along with producing partners George Clooney and Grant Heslov), Garner told ABC she had high hopes for her hubby. “I can’t even talk about it,” the Gucci-clad star said as tears welled up in her eyes. “I’m a puddle.”
In a recent interview while promoting his film Argo Ben talked about whether or not he would like to be able to work with Jennifer again.
LOS ANGELES—“I’d work with her in a second,” Ben Affleck told us when asked about his wife, Jennifer Garner. Showered with critical praise for his third feature directorial effort, “Argo,” Ben proves that his earlier projects, “The Town” and “Gone Baby Gone,” were not flukes.
“I’d direct Jennifer … if I found a movie with a strong female lead,” Ben stressed. As for acting together, he said, “Audiences are too savvy now to suspend disbelief about a married couple and think of them as other people.”
He described his wife as “a monster talent” and said it would be “a joy to watch her go through a performance … like with my brother [Casey Affleck, whom he directed in ‘Gone Baby Gone’]. I always knew when his performance wasn’t sincere … when there [was] a little upturn of the eye, letting some air out of the nose. Because when you know someone your whole life, you know when he’s bulls***ting you.”
Ben pointed out that he had known Jennifer long enough to know “whether she’s telling the truth or not … but maybe she’s got me totally fooled.”
The proud parents of three children, Ben said that he and Jennifer—they’ve been married seven years—have found time to pursue their respective film careers.
“We have the kind of partnership that allows me to do the stuff that I do. She also gets to work. In fact, when she was doing ‘The Odd Life of Timothy Green,’ that’s when I got the script for ‘Argo’ … We’re lucky.”
Ben’s best friend, Matt Damon and his family, conveniently live close by. “I see him all the time. Every day,” Ben disclosed. “We bring the kids back and forth. It’s like Fantasy-ville. Usually my wife is there. And Matt’s wife is there. I have a nice time … I have a lot of friends who don’t work in the business, thank God. Otherwise, the conversations would get very boring.”
Ben Affleck is featured in the new Hollywood Reporter and in talking about his success he talks about his wife and how she is a major supporter for him.
Garner, whom he met on Daredevil, contributed to this thinking. “Jennifer played such a profound role in making me a better person,” says Affleck. “We don’t have a perfect marriage, but she inspired me; and finding myself in that marriage and having a child dovetailed with getting to be a little more mature.”
Asked what drew him to his wife, he considers. “She truly is kind,” he says. “She means no one any harm. She doesn’t have ill will for any person. She’s not competitive with other people. She’s not spiteful.” He laughs. “It’s one of those things where it becomes almost aggravating at times. Every time I go, ‘F– him!’ I see in her face that she just thinks that’s petty and small.”
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